I Love You Mom

My mom trying to hide her tears during a surprise Ruby Wedding Anniversary for her and my dad last year. They never had a clue that a lot of family, relative and friends awaits them at the reception hall to celebrate the day that they said there vows to each other.

My mom was just diagnosed with Lupus 2 weeks ago. She was hospitalized twice, once last year and then another one about 3 months ago for Idiopathic Thrombocytopenic Purpura. She used to be healthy but for the past year she had been sickly and it is scaring everyone in the family.

I just talked to her 2 days ago via Skype and I noticed that she’s having puffiness on her face which is a side effect of her daily steroid regimen. It saddens me to see her look that way. I know that she is trying to fight the disease as well as  remain optimistic about it. I’m glad that my other sisters and their husbands together with my dad are there to take care of her and give her all the support she needs.

Ever since I can remember, my mom was the strongest one. She raised 6 kids against all odds. We’ve experienced a lot of trials and financial difficulties when we were growing up but she made it a point that her kids won’t feel the burden of the economic hardships. I could still recall that in 1986, a great typhoon ” Undang” heat our province, part of our roof was blown off, my dad lost his livelihood and source of income, we didn’t have electricity for more than a month. My mom who’s an excellent cook was able to supply my school with the local delicacy called ” Arroz Caldo” and ” Ginataan” which she would cook in the middle of our house using chopped wood or charcoal like in a campfire. The income sustained us until my parents were able to get back on their feet. My siblings and I being kids then thought that it was just an extended camping activity. We had fun looking for wood and drying them up as well as telling  night-time ghost stories with only a single candle to light up the dark room. My mom and dad were able to devise a strategy that made us all feel that it was just a game or a play but whenever they were alone together,  they would hold and comfort each other in what they call as one of the hardest times they’ve faced. I found this out when I was already an adult.

All her life until all her 6 kids graduated college , my mom took care of us. She would cook us food everyday, prepare our  lunch for school, take care of the household making sure everything was clean and perfect for her little angels but more importantly she would patiently nurse us back to recovery whenever we were sick. And among the siblings, guess who’s the sickest? Yep, yours truly! I was diagnosed with asthma at 6 months old. Back then there were no albuterol inhalation, no i.v. steroids , in short it was  the middle ages of asthma treatment. I basically grew up in the hospital when I was less than  12 years old and my mom was the one who would comfort me when I couldn’t breath. When I was struggling for air at night , she would stay awake with me until I fell asleep. I do not know  how she did it but I know that she did it because she was an extraordinary woman whose heart is full of selfless love, generosity and concern for her family.

Now that she is getting older as well as my dad , I hope to one day take care of them together with the help of my other siblings and their spouses. I would like to be there when they are experiencing discomfort, sickness, fear and uncertainty just like they were there for us when we were still young and helpless. The cycle of love and life in my family is moving its course and now I have to take my place in that circle.

I know that all of us have a story to tell about our mothers. I believe that all them are remarkable if not heroic for the things they did to make us who we are now. This is our chance to let them know of how much we love them, of how much we appreciate the sacrifices they’ve made in the passing of years not to mention the passing of their youth.

I love you mom and I would like the world to know how special you are not just to us your children but also to your grandkids who adores you. Thank you for being the best mom a son could ever  ask for. Happy Mother’s Day.

To all the blogger moms out there, Happy  Mother’s Day. If there are any wonderful memories that you would like to share  about your mothers, I would be glad to read about  them in the comment section. Have a great day everyone.

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11 Responses to I Love You Mom

  1. thedailydish says:

    Your mother’s determination and strength is remarkable and surely has made you a better person today. Wishing much health & happiness to you all — and a very speedy recovery to your mom.

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    • Howdy, thank you for the kind and encouraging words. Since I migrated to the U.S. 8 years ago, I got to see her a few days in a year during vacation leave and that is a sad price to pay for trying to make a better future for yourself and your family. I’m planning to go home this summer to spend some time with her and my dad who also was newly diagnosed with hypertension 2 weeks ago. I’ve been hearing a lot of death among friends and family and I don’t want to wake up 1 day that it’s all too late. I enjoyed the posts in your blog, reminds me of my sisters and my mom back home. Please do continue to write and inspire people. It’s a gift, and we’re all thankful for it. Till next time. Have s good day.

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  2. Barbara says:

    What a beautiful tribute to your dear mother! I’m always impressed by parents who manage to make hard times into fond memories for their children. The love of her children will comfort your mom as she faces the future trying to cope with a terrible illness.

    My mother died twenty years ago this month, when I was 34 and she was 59 – this time of year is always a little difficult for me with Mother’s Day and the anniversary of her death in the same month. It’s hard to believe that I still miss her so much. Last year I wrote a blog post about her: http://ingebrita.wordpress.com/2010/05/27/elisabeth-w-chomiak-1931-1991/

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    • Hi, Barbara, thank you for the moving comment. Sorry about your mom. It’s always difficult to loose a love one may it be recent or a few years ago. They will always be in our hearts and mind no matter what , and special days like mother’s day, anniversaries or birthdays reminds us more of how much we miss them. Looking forward to read the rest of your post particularly the one you wrote about your mom. It was very thoughtful of you to pay a tribute to her .Even if they are no longer physically present among us, I believe that they are always watching us and I’m sure your post about her made her happy. thank you for sharing.

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  3. Jackie Paulson Author says:

    Wow, this is so amazing, starting with the flower art work outside by the wall. Your mom is special and needs to have the tribute. My mom died when I was five. I admire all you do for yours.

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    • Hi, Jackie. I’m sorry to hear about your mom. I can not imagine the pain of loosing someone as close as a parent.One of my greatest fear is that one day I would loose one of them. I just pray that God would give me the chance to spend more time enjoying their presence before that time comes. Thank you for your comment. That means a lot to me.Thank you.

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  4. I am sorry to hear your parents are not doing well. My parents are also getting on in their age and it was startling for me to realize how fragile the people I have always relied on have become.

    I really admire women who are able to give themselves wholly and selflessly to their family. I think that mothering is a very difficult task. My mom was always busy when I was growing up– but I do love her and wrote a post about her– I have not given her the link though because I am really not the most affectionate among siblings.

    Prayers for you and your family.

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    • Thank you Faith. My mom is still on steroids but her bruises stopped and she seem to be doing okay. We found out that she has Lupus. We’re actually a bit relieved because now we know her diagnosis. I miss them and I feel helpless that I’m not physically there to take care of them . But God is good and I believe he’s watching them for me. Sorry to hear that your mom was busy during your growing up years but there’s still time to catch up. Life is too short for anyone of us to waste. I wish you and your family the best of health and happiness.

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  5. ceceliafutch says:

    What a beautiful tribute to your mother. Blessings to you all.

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    • Thanks . I owe a lot to my mom. She made a lot of sacrifices for me and my siblings. She is full of love and generosity. I miss those days when I was still near to my parents. Have a blessed day as well.

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