I called my dad this morning to greet him a Happy Father’s Day. It was nice to hear his voice once again. The last time I talked to him was when he was having an Acute Hypertensive Urgency. Thank God that his blood pressure is now stable and he’s back to his usual self.
I was planning to write a tribute about him yesterday but when I started gathering my thoughts and began recollecting the things we did together, I felt a heaviness in my heart. I realized that I miss him a lot . I tried to mask it by being busy with a lot of things but a person can only suppress an emotion up to a certain point. Eventually it will reach its threshold and mine was at that very instant. I decided to write later when my mind can already think straight.
After talking to him on the phone. I felt light. The dark cloud had been lifted. I was all fired up and ready to make my tribute. There’s so much about him that I wanted to talk about but today I decided to focus on the things that he taught me that shaped me into who I am today.
1. He taught me how to love and to share.
I grew up with 5 other siblings and even if we went into some days of hardships, my dad always made it a point that there was a surplus of love and affection in the house. He made us value the simplest of things, uncomplicate our lives and to find happiness by sharing your time and yourself with the people you care about.
2. He taught me to forgive.
I had my fair share of hurts and emotional pains from the abuse of those people who I gave my trust. I had experiences of being scammed and taken advantage of and I pray each day that my heart would find itself to forgive. My dad experienced a far worst situation, felt more suffering and betrayal than I ever had but he was able to find the word to say, ” I forgive.” He would rather wake up in the morning at peace with himself and breath with a clear conscience. I’m almost there but sometimes when I recall the past traumatic events, I feel a slight tinge of anger. Till then, I continue to strive to let go of any negativity in my heart one day at a time.
3. He taught me to be adventurous and creative.
I remember our projects together from raising guppies, to opening a full-blown Aquarium and Fish Store, to planting Mahogany trees, to growing chickens and pigs, raising my first puppy and going out-of-town discovering local beaches and natural wonders of nature. He taught me how to find joy, excitement and creativity without costing a thing except maybe for gas.
4. He taught me to value people for who they are and not for what they have.
My dad is one of those who can talk to anyone . He can converse with a local market vendor to the most influential people in town without shedding a single sweat. He treated everyone fairly and has a way to make people feel good about themselves. A friend told me while at work how I could just talk and relate to everyone in the hospital, from the housekeeper, to the patients and their families, to the doctors as well as the other adjoining department staff. It’s only now that I realized that I got it from my father.
5. He taught me how to soar.
There are still a lot of things he taught me but this post won’t contain all of them just like if anyone else would list down the lessons they learned from their fathers. I had 40 great years of memory bank and that’s a huge storage of data to expound and share. So, I reserve the best for last. Growing up, my father taught me not to rely on material things, on family heirlooms like money and properties but to equipped myself with the basic tool of all, education! He never pressured me to go over my limits rather he encouraged me to give out my best in everything that I do. I chose to excel in my field not because he told me to but because I wanted to. He and my mom provided me with all the support and motivation in life. They were my greatest fans. My dad helped me find my wings, learn how to fly and finally, soar on my own. He taught me to be independent and use my abilities to face and overcome the challenges as well as the harsh realities of the world. What I am today , he prepared me for it and for that I’m forever grateful.
I love you dad. I maybe away from you but my heart and thoughts will always be filled by your presence. The words of wisdom you taught me I will always value and cherish. I thank God each day for bringing you into my life. You’re the best dad in the world and I would like everyone to know about it . Happy Father’s Day.
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